tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4390155723862867731.post5171289616486965987..comments2023-04-25T19:43:42.082-04:00Comments on Bake One Buy One: A non-postCoffeeBluehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13371697271417561987noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4390155723862867731.post-13696241790364746572011-02-16T15:36:49.835-05:002011-02-16T15:36:49.835-05:00i've been catching up on my reader, so this co...i've been catching up on my reader, so this comment is a bit late. i just wanted to say, yes, it IS hard. i hope you guys have worked through some of this stuff over the last week.Pomegranatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03269172833468901068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4390155723862867731.post-52053319041434305902011-02-10T15:53:43.416-05:002011-02-10T15:53:43.416-05:00You two are both so right! Thanks for the advice. ...You two are both so right! Thanks for the advice. Our new thing is to treat each other and our relationship as something precious - at - all - times. Even when we're mad. So far so good.CoffeeBluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13371697271417561987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4390155723862867731.post-91049600426705623032011-02-09T21:15:17.935-05:002011-02-09T21:15:17.935-05:00Oh man, those fights are the worst. For us, they s...Oh man, those fights are the worst. For us, they start with a small issue, turn into a big issue, and then all this hurt and anger and bad feeling comes out, and it's not until two hours later when we're both emotionally exhausted and I'm dehydrated from crying that we get back to "I love you so much... let's never do this again... none of this is important." But a few months later, it can come up again, always for the same reasons. It's tough.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03310299759661498386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4390155723862867731.post-11299469542931941832011-02-09T13:22:17.371-05:002011-02-09T13:22:17.371-05:00it *is* hard, and the ttc/ttadopt stuff doesn'...it *is* hard, and the ttc/ttadopt stuff doesn't make it any easier, that's for sure. <br /><br />when sugar and i were first together, one half of a long-established gay couple who had both known me a long time pulled her aside for a lot of fierce, fatherly advice. the thing i remember him saying is, "be kind to each other. ranny and i have been together 35 [?] years, and it's *only* because we have been *kind*." i try to keep that in mind, especially when things aren't easy. not that it's earth-shattering advice, but it is a little different from the more directive ideas i've heard from other people, and coming from this particular man, it is a good reminder for me that even great relationships depend on mindfulness sometimes.Bionic Baby Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14308646591208692676noreply@blogger.com