Thursday, December 29, 2011

A few details...a big question

Things have been *happening* over here. I've kept the details to myself a little for privacy's sake and a lot just because it's emotionally exhausting and I only have energy for sleeping and eating cookies. I never knew being chosen by a birth mother would be even harder than waiting for one to pick us.

The good news: she changed her mind again and we met her yesterday and she is all the good things we day dreamed about...most importantly she loves this peanut and wants to be a part of his (it's a boy!) life after the placement.

The crisis: After we met the birth mother we came home and googled the birth father’s name. He was arrested (and since released) for a violent crime last year. Now we’re freaking out. The birth father is against the adoption and we’re afraid he’s going to come over and beat us up or kidnap the baby. Maybe over reacting. But maybe not.

So that’s where things stand. Precarious...with baby set to arrive any second.

We're trying to reach our agency (for words of wisdom) but they are closed for the holidays and the on-call person is in the midst of a more pressing crisis (c-section). We don't know what to do. Brain says run, heart says stay.


  1. I'm rooting for you and this. Dangerous people are scary and I hope you find a solution that both makes your heart happy and safe.

  2. Whew. What a roller-coaster. Good luck sorting out the best solution--I hope you can find a way to make it work!

  3. I understand that you are scared of the dad with the criminal past, but does that fear overcome the potential love for this baby? You both need and want each other. Keep trying to find out as much information as you can. I hope everything works out!